What is a family?

Today, I’m going to get political on my blog. I don’t do this often, but this is something I feel very strongly about and it just really bugs me to no end.

I am so tired of hearing “what a family is” from so many different sources. They stand on their soapbox, haul out their Bibles and preach on what a family is.

Frankly, no where in the Bible does it say what a family is. The Bible does have views on what a marriage is, and I’m not going there today. But, the Bible is silent on what constitutes a family. This does not stop many from preaching on what they think the Bible says, though.

Take our state “Christian” homeschooling group. Here is a quote from their statement of faith.

“We understand family to mean a male and a female, with one or more children, all related by blood (Genesis 1:26-28), though we recognize the exceptions of a single parent and adopted children (James 1:27).”

Basically, according to this statement, Jesus and his family (Mary and Joseph) are excluded. Think about it. Joseph is not Jesus’ blood father. At least, if you’re a Christian, you believe that. So, Mary, Joseph and Jesus could not have signed this statement of faith.

Let’s look at the Bible verses they use to back up their claims.

Genesis 1:26-28 (King James Version)
26And God said, Let us make man in our image, after our likeness: and let them have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over the cattle, and over all the earth, and over every creeping thing that creepeth upon the earth.
27So God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them.
28And God blessed them, and God said unto them, Be fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the earth, and subdue it: and have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over every living thing that moveth upon the earth.”

Humm…not seeing “related by blood” in there. In fact, I see NOTHING about family in there. Just creation.

How about the “exceptions” listed.

James 1:27 (New International Version)
27 Religion that God our Father accepts as pure and faultless is this: to look after orphans and widows in their distress and to keep oneself from being polluted by the world.

Is it me, or do I NOT see the words exception to a family in there? I see accepts. In fact, if you look at it, this verse has nothing to do with what constitutes a family. It has to do with what Christian duty is.

This is purely a case of someone using the Bible to say what they want.

In a sermon at our church, Pastor Derwin Gray once said “Marriage is the perfect expression of God’s love.” (emphasis added).

I’m sorry, but that is dead wrong. No verses to even back that statement up, because there are none. The perfect expression of God’s love was the sacrifice of His Only Begotten Son for our sins. There is nothing humans can do to come even close to that!

What this all stems from is a desire to legislate morality. People desperately want to MAKE others follow the Bible. I want to MAKE those people go read Galatians and Ephesians. Legislating morality is called legalism and God is so against it, He has 2 whole books in the Bible about it.

If your marriage or family feels threatened because others live in a style that is against your religion (yes, religion, not faith), then you need to examine your marriage and your family.

My children and I are a family. I am a widow, but I did have my son out of wedlock, 2 years after my husband died. I never married my son’s father. I thank God daily I didn’t. I cannot sign the statement of faith because, according to them, we are an exception. We are not an exception. We are a family. We are exactly what God wants us to be.



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8 responses to “What is a family?

  1. Ami

    Standing ovation!!!

    Yes yes yes you’re absolutely right!!

    And there is no sanctimonious, holier-than-thou person in the world who has the right to decide what constitutes a family.



  2. Jo

    Three cheers for Libi!


  3. Eryn

    Thank you for dusting off the soapbox!

    This was a pleasure to read.


  4. Penny Karma

    WOW! That was so well-said!


  5. peri

    Thank you for an interesting post.


  6. Georgiann

    Great points here, Libi. Thanks for the thoughtful message.


  7. kemtee

    Beautifully done, my dear. Beautifully done.


  8. Queen of the froggers

    What a great read. thank you for commenting 🙂


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